About
Therapy in LA with Anna Hollaender-Bird, LMFT
Do any of these situations sound familiar?
- There was that breakup with the guy who was “the one.” Painful, unexpected. And now you feel like never dating again or think to yourself – maybe my parents are right – just date that person you know they like. Essentially give up.
- That traumatic “thing” that happened that replays in your mind. You don’t even want to say it out loud. Why won’t it go away? You’ve tried to move on.
- That horrible recurring fight with your family or friends that made you feel completely defeated and alone. But, if you can’t talk with your support system, then who can you trust?
- You try to get everything “right,” but honestly you just feel anxious and defeated a lot. Why can’t you just trust yourself? Other people seem to just “know” what they want, hold their heads up high. What’s wrong with you?
- You’re there for everyone else. But it feels like when you need something, there’s no one there for you. You want close friends, a relationship, a “community,” but that hasn’t happened yet. And it feels lonely. Why don’t you “fit” anywhere?
- It’s hard to set boundaries with your family and friends. It feels like you’re a “doormat” sometimes.
- You’ve got so many plates spinning at the same time: school, job, family expectations. It’s just a matter of time before something falls. You make a mistake. Then it’ll be all your fault. Well, it feels like it’s all your fault anyway. So, what does it matter?
Therapy gives you a platform.
Until you see the whole picture, it’s hard to heal. Let’s explore what’s underneath together.
Think about an iceberg. You can see the tip of the iceberg above the water, but you know there’s a lot more there. You just can’t see it.
This is like the therapy process. There are so many issues that bring us into therapy: stress, tough relationships, feelings of insecurity, or memories that play on “repeat” in your head. But you know that there’s MORE.
Once you see and understand what’s beneath the surface, you can deal with it and finally heal – without the comments or “simple solutions” from friends and family that drive you crazy.
Therapy is a place where you can figure things out without judgment or pressure.
I earn your trust through really taking the time to understand how you feel – “walk a mile” in your shoes, so to speak, and help you figure out your vision for where you’re headed. As your therapist, I make you feel comfortable to finally say those things out loud that you’ve had running over and over in your mind.
What each person WANTS from therapy is different for everyone, of course. Therefore, it’s a personalized experience. I’ll walk you through tough topics in a way that leaves you with hope.
I pace therapy sessions in a way that feels comfortable for you. We don’t have to do a “deep dive” into your childhood. I take the pressure off.
When we both agree you’re ready, I help you work through tough moments in the past and in the end change the way it’s remembered in a good way. That’s what sets me apart from other therapists.